Become a founding member

Your birth didn't go to plan? You're not alone.

Your birth didn't go to plan?
You're not alone.

Someone close to you thinks Mendara may help you  - we're glad you're here.

Mendara is a safe, guided space to help you process your birth experience. Expertly-facilitated group sessions with those who truly understand, and tools to help you keep processing in between. Now open to a small group of founding members.
Developed in partnership with the Birth Trauma Association and backed by Nesta, the UK's innovation agency for social good.


Mendara is a safe, guided space to help you process your birth experience. Expertly-facilitated group sessions with those who truly understand, and tools to help you keep processing in between. Now open to a small group of founding members.
Developed in partnership with the Birth Trauma Association and backed by Nesta, the UK's innovation agency for social good.

Become a founding member of Mendara

Mendara is currently open to a small group of founding members. Your membership unlocks:

A community that gets it

You are not alone in this. Mendara connects you with a growing community of women who have been through the same thing.

200+ women

in our community

Unlimited guided group sessions

We match you with a small group of women who have been through similar experiences, so you can meet regularly. Join an anonymous, text-based group chat to connect with your group. Each session is led by a trained, trauma-informed facilitator with lived experience of birth trauma, and explores different themes.

80+

session run

4

facilitators

9.8/10

rating

Free tools and exercises

Access tools such as journalling, and a 7 day micro-experience to help you process between sessions, at your own pace.

20+ guided moments

journalling, reframing, mantras and more.

Founding members get 50% off their first month

Join for only £12.50/month for your first month. Mendara Membership is typically £25/month. Cancel anytime + full money-back guarantee.

As a founding member, you also get to shape the future of Mendara. You'll have the opportunity to provide feedback directly to our founder and be part of campaigns, events, and community moments as they happen. The women who join now are not just members. They are part of changing what support looks like for every woman who comes after them.

What our community says:

Members who have attended consistently more than 3 times report feeling better day-to-day, more confident in caring for themselves and their baby, and less alone in their experience.

  • Like a lifeline

    "Mendara has felt a little like a lifeline at the moment. A calm, safe space for me in a hectic and uncharted mindset. I feel that Mendara will do wonders for my personal growth."

    Anonymous

  • The missing puzzle piece

    "When I did EMDR it was utterly exhausting and I would feel tired and ill for at least 24-48h after. Mendara is quite a gentle alternative... I wish I had come across it a year ago. This might be the missing puzzle piece I have been searching for."

    Anonymous

  • Life changing

    "I didn't even know if what I went through counted. I just knew I felt really alone. Hearing other women's stories helped me realise my feelings were valid."

    Sarah

    8 months post partum

  • I felt heard

    "This was the first time I felt truly heard. No one telling me to 'move on' or that 'at least the baby is healthy.'"

    MN

    9 weeks post-partum

  • A weight lifted

    "Knowing that I'm not alone and that my feelings are valid was such a weight lifted."

    Anonymous

  • Reassurance from others

    "Nice to have some reassurance from others who have been through similar experiences and also help others"

    Anonymous

  • A comfortable space

    "Leone did a great job of making it a comfortable space for people to talk. Everyone who contributed responded to each other's comments and this was validating."

    Anonymous

  • Included and heard

    "Rachael was wonderful and she made everyone feel included and heard - hard to do via text!"

    Anonymous

  • Like a lifeline

    "Mendara has felt a little like a lifeline at the moment. A calm, safe space for me in a hectic and uncharted mindset. I feel that Mendara will do wonders for my personal growth."

    Anonymous

  • The missing puzzle piece

    "When I did EMDR it was utterly exhausting and I would feel tired and ill for at least 24-48h after. Mendara is quite a gentle alternative... I wish I had come across it a year ago. This might be the missing puzzle piece I have been searching for."

    Anonymous

  • Life changing

    "I didn't even know if what I went through counted. I just knew I felt really alone. Hearing other women's stories helped me realise my feelings were valid."

    Sarah

    8 months post partum

  • I felt heard

    "This was the first time I felt truly heard. No one telling me to 'move on' or that 'at least the baby is healthy.'"

    MN

    9 weeks post-partum

  • A weight lifted

    "Knowing that I'm not alone and that my feelings are valid was such a weight lifted."

    Anonymous

  • Reassurance from others

    "Nice to have some reassurance from others who have been through similar experiences and also help others"

    Anonymous

  • A comfortable space

    "Leone did a great job of making it a comfortable space for people to talk. Everyone who contributed responded to each other's comments and this was validating."

    Anonymous

  • Included and heard

    "Rachael was wonderful and she made everyone feel included and heard - hard to do via text!"

    Anonymous

  • Like a lifeline

    "Mendara has felt a little like a lifeline at the moment. A calm, safe space for me in a hectic and uncharted mindset. I feel that Mendara will do wonders for my personal growth."

    Anonymous

  • The missing puzzle piece

    "When I did EMDR it was utterly exhausting and I would feel tired and ill for at least 24-48h after. Mendara is quite a gentle alternative... I wish I had come across it a year ago. This might be the missing puzzle piece I have been searching for."

    Anonymous

  • Life changing

    "I didn't even know if what I went through counted. I just knew I felt really alone. Hearing other women's stories helped me realise my feelings were valid."

    Sarah

    8 months post partum

  • I felt heard

    "This was the first time I felt truly heard. No one telling me to 'move on' or that 'at least the baby is healthy.'"

    MN

    9 weeks post-partum

  • A weight lifted

    "Knowing that I'm not alone and that my feelings are valid was such a weight lifted."

    Anonymous

  • Reassurance from others

    "Nice to have some reassurance from others who have been through similar experiences and also help others"

    Anonymous

  • A comfortable space

    "Leone did a great job of making it a comfortable space for people to talk. Everyone who contributed responded to each other's comments and this was validating."

    Anonymous

  • Included and heard

    "Rachael was wonderful and she made everyone feel included and heard - hard to do via text!"

    Anonymous

How it works

Step

01

Download the App

Once downloaded, you will be asked to complete your profile so we can understand your experience properly. You don’t have to use your real name, in fact, we will ask you to pick a nickname when you join.

01

Download the App

Once downloaded, you will be asked to complete your profile so we can understand your experience properly. You don’t have to use your real name, in fact, we will ask you to pick a nickname when you join.

1

Download the App

Once downloaded, you will be asked to complete your profile so we can understand your experience properly. You don’t have to use your real name, in fact, we will ask you to pick a nickname when you join.

Step

02

Facilitator Review

Our trained facilitators will read what you share. They will take time to understand where you are, think carefully about who you should be in a room with, and design a group that is right for you.

02

Facilitator Review

Our trained facilitators will read what you share. They will take time to understand where you are, think carefully about who you should be in a room with, and design a group that is right for you.

2

Facilitator Review

Our trained facilitators will read what you share. They will take time to understand where you are, think carefully about who you should be in a room with, and design a group that is right for you.

Step

03

Free Guided Exercises

Explore the free tools and resources within the app, such as journaling prompts and guided, science-backed exercises to help you make sense of what happened, whenever you need it.

03

Free Guided Exercises

Explore the free tools and resources within the app, such as journaling prompts and guided, science-backed exercises to help you make sense of what happened, whenever you need it.

3

Free Guided Exercises

Explore the free tools and resources within the app, such as journaling prompts and guided, science-backed exercises to help you make sense of what happened, whenever you need it.

Step

04

Get matched with your group

Once you’re matched with your group, we will reach out with a personal invitation and everything you need to get started.

04

Get matched with your group

Once you’re matched with your group, we will reach out with a personal invitation and everything you need to get started.

4

Get matched with your group

Once you’re matched with your group, we will reach out with a personal invitation and everything you need to get started.

Step

05

Attend Your First Mendara Session

Sessions are text-based, completely anonymous, 60 minutes long, and fit around your schedule. You will meet with a small group of women who have been through similar experiences, alongside a trained, trauma-informed facilitator with lived experience of birth trauma.

05

Attend Your First Mendara Session

Sessions are text-based, completely anonymous, 60 minutes long, and fit around your schedule. You will meet with a small group of women who have been through similar experiences, alongside a trained, trauma-informed facilitator with lived experience of birth trauma.

5

Attend Your First Mendara Session

Sessions are text-based, completely anonymous, 60 minutes long, and fit around your schedule. You will meet with a small group of women who have been through similar experiences, alongside a trained, trauma-informed facilitator with lived experience of birth trauma.

Meet your facilitators

Each Mendara session is held by trained facilitators who bring professional care, lived understanding, and a steady group presence.

Rachael, Mendara facilitator
Rachael, Mendara facilitator
Rachael

Chair of the Birth Trauma Association

I came to the role of BTA chair and volunteer manager due to my own experience of a twin pregnancy which was complicated by a life-changing placental abruption, emergency caesarean birth, and severe postpartum complications.

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Leone

Session Facilitator

With my third pregnancy I was hospitalised at 20 weeks with sepsis, and spent time in intensive care. I first realised I had postnatal depression four months after, but it took a further year before I reached out and was, gently, told I had PTSD. I ultimately credit EMDR therapy with saving my life, as well as the Birth Trauma Association, who provided a space for me to tell my story. I want to help create a space for others to feel less alone and tell their story. There's power in taking back our stories but healing is possible.

Read more

Colleen

Session Facilitator

I experienced a difficult lead up to my first birth, including a severe PUPPP rash, multiple ‘stretch & sweeps’ which I experienced as extremely painful and violating, and fourth degree tears. I didn't realise for some time that I was experiencing birth trauma. It is important for me to be able to offer support to others in a similar situation as it's an area where gratitude and grief, delight and devastation can sit all at once, which can feel very overwhelming when navigating parenthood. A little support can go a long way.

Read more

About the Birth Trauma Association

Visit: birthtraumaassociation.org

Email: support@birthtraumaassociation.org.uk
Phone: 0203 621 6338 (peer support) or 07779 275032 for admin enquiries, Monday to Friday 10am to 1pm

Mendara is developed alongside the Birth Trauma Association, the only charity in the UK solely dedicated to supporting women and families who have experienced a traumatic birth.

Founded and run by women with lived experience of birth trauma, the BTA supports parents and families, campaigns to improve maternity care, and engages health professionals through education and research. They were the lead organisation advising on the 2024 parliamentary inquiry into birth trauma, and have been supporting families for over 20 years.

If you are looking for additional support, the BTA has a wealth of free resources, a supportive community, and peer supporters who have all been through a traumatic birth themselves.


Mendara is developed alongside the Birth Trauma Association, the only charity in the UK solely dedicated to supporting women and families who have experienced a traumatic birth.

Founded and run by women with lived experience of birth trauma, the BTA supports parents and families, campaigns to improve maternity care, and engages health professionals through education and research. They were the lead organisation advising on the 2024 parliamentary inquiry into birth trauma, and have been supporting families for over 20 years.

If you are looking for additional support, the BTA has a wealth of free resources, a supportive community, and peer supporters who have all been through a traumatic birth themselves.


Mendara is a safe online space for women who have experienced a difficult birth.


Mendara is not a substitute for therapy or a medical service. We cannot provide support in an immediate crisis. If you are experiencing an emergency, please dial 999.


By joining a session organised by Mendara, you confirm your understanding that Mendara and the Birth Trauma Association are not responsible for any events that occur outside of these sessions.

© 2026 Mendara. All Rights Reserved.

Mendara is a safe online space for women who have experienced a difficult birth.


Mendara is not a substitute for therapy or a medical service. We cannot provide support in an immediate crisis. If you are experiencing an emergency, please dial 999.


By joining a session organised by Mendara, you confirm your understanding that Mendara and the Birth Trauma Association are not responsible for any events that occur outside of these sessions.

© 2026 Mendara. All Rights Reserved.

Mendara is a safe online space for women who have experienced a difficult birth.


Mendara is not a substitute for therapy or a medical service. We cannot provide support in an immediate crisis. If you are experiencing an emergency, please dial 999.


By joining a session organised by Mendara, you confirm your understanding that Mendara and the Birth Trauma Association are not responsible for any events that occur outside of these sessions.

© 2026 Mendara. All Rights Reserved.